“A thousand half-loves
must be forsaken to take
one whole heart home.” – Rumi
Some would say that I have no right to “take one whole heart home.” That I deserve only an unfulfilled life of half-loves.
Just because I’m gay.
Some would say that giving me the right to legally marry my same-sex partner of 13 years (yes, THIRTEEN) weakens the strength of not only their opposite-sex marriage but the entire institution of marriage. See this blog post from Stand for Marriage Maine re: the threat my relationship poses to traditional same-sex marriage.
Wow, now *that* is giving my minority group a lot of power! Rather ironic, isn’t it?
Yesterday Maine voters decided that they really weren’t ok with the law passed by the state Legislature earlier this year — to legally allow same-sex marriage and the rights/protections going along with that.
Some rejoiced. Others wept. (See this article for further description of the reactions).
You know, my wish to legally marry my same-sex life partner (yes, partner FOR LIFE… legally recognized or not) is not about taking anything away from any one else’s relationship. It’s not about trying to prove anything or trying to force my way of being on anyone else.
It’s about knowing that if my partner ever needs someone to make medical decisions for her, I won’t be denied the chance to be her voice.
It’s about knowing that if something happens to me, the resources I leave behind won’t be taken away from the one who has supported and loved me for years and years.
It’s about giving our relationship a chance to extend beyond the emotional and into the practical.
So all I ask today, no matter what viewpoint you hold, is that we keep talking about this. Not from a place of anger or judgment on either side but from a genuine desire to find those golden threads of understanding between all of us.
Because really, isn’t it still just about Love?
text and photos by Starla J. King
(Note: this entry is the second in the new “Anatomy of Love” blog series – a personal look at the experience of a Lesbian Mennonite navigating the unpredictable waters of non-traditional faith and love. Click here for first post in the series.)