Power of Three

Not one, not two, but THREE

Three minds, three hearts, three voices.   Three energies poured into the same goal.  Three dreams intertwining into one feasible reality.  Powerful, isn’t it?

Yes, working alone is sometimes necessary (and admittedly sometimes preferable).  And partnerships of two have their own rich value.  But three… three has exponential potential. 

When a group of individual brains are coordinated and function in harmony, the increased energy created through that alliance becomes available to every individual brain in the group.
- Napoleon Hill, “Think and Grow Rich

That’s the idea behind “The Power of Three” – a new (exciting!) collaborative adventure I’ve just begun with life coaches Clint Griess and Judah Kurtz.  We have created a triad alliance committed to supporting each other in contributing to others’ lives through Inspiration, Connection, Education and Entertainment

Our current medium is writing… our blogs:  we’ll meet weekly to brainstorm important blog topics and key points, then each of us will write a blog on that topic, using our own voice to add our particular flavor to the topic.  Make sure to explore Clint’s blog and Judah’s blog.

Why three??  Three is a magic number – as the very first Schoolhouse Rock video taught many of us (click here to watch it ).  There’s an intrinsic stability, flexibility and strength in collaborations/alliances among three (or more) people.  Like a stool that requires three legs for balance, and the geodesic dome using triangles (“threeangles”? :) ) for strength and to distribute stress across the structure.    

Here’s the part that really intrigues me:  each person in the triad is committed to supporting and nurturing the relationship of the other two people.  Or conversely, you have two other people looking out for your relationships within the triad alliance.  (read more about this in Tribal Leadership by Logan, King and Fischer-Wright).  

This is not just about sharing tasks.  Powerful triad connections are built upon shared values and shared dreamsso this is about enhancing the quality of our connections – at work, at home and inbetween.    

And the exponential potential part?  Consider this: by just adding one person to a triad, you get three more triads.  3 people = 1 triad;   4 people = three triads.  Exponential expansion. 

Which means more people looking out for other people’s relationships.  And more people powerfully connecting “members” of their triads with other like-spirited people based on shared values and shared dreams.   Each of those relationships you initially foster takes on a beautiful, rich, energy-giving life of its own.

So today, think about your relationshipswho can you introduce a friend or colleague to in order to enhance their work, their spirit?   And in partnership with you, who might I connect you with so you too can experience the Power of Three??

In the Dew of Little Things

Today my own words are tired, needing time to find themselves.  So I borrow and share the words of Kahlil Gibran, sent to me earlier by a dear friend.  

(Note: I’ve edited the pronouns to include both feminine and masculine).

On Friendship
 by Kahlil Gibran

Your friend is your needs answered.
She is your field which you sow with love and reap with thanksgiving.
And she is your board and your fireside.
For you come to her with your hunger, and you seek her for peace.

When your friend speaks his mind you fear not the “nay” in your own mind, nor do you withhold the “ay.”

And when she is silent your heart ceases not to listen to her heart;
For without words, in friendship, all thoughts, all desires, all expectations are born and shared, with joy that is unacclaimed.

When you part from your friend, you grieve not;
For that which you love most in him may be clearer in his absence, as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain.

And let there be no purpose in friendship save the deepening of the spirit.
For love that seeks aught but the disclosure of its own mystery is not love but a net cast forth: and only the unprofitable is caught.

And let your best be for your friend.
If she must know the ebb of your tide, let him know its flood also.
For what is your friend that you should seek her with hours to kill?
Seek her always with hours to live.
For it is hers to fill your need, but not your emptiness.

And in the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures.
For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed. 

May each of us find the courage to enter and provide those friendships that allow the deepening of the spirit. 

Anatomy of Love – Who gets to decide??

“A thousand half-loves
must be forsaken to take
one whole heart home.”
– Rumi

Some would say that I have no right to “take one whole heart home.”   That I deserve only an unfulfilled life of half-loves.

Just because I’m gay.

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Me, and my "wife" Sandy (photo by Patti Burke)

Some would say that giving me the right to legally marry my same-sex partner of 13 years (yes, THIRTEEN) weakens the strength of not only their opposite-sex marriage but the entire institution of marriage.  See this blog post from Stand for Marriage Maine re: the threat my relationship poses to traditional same-sex marriage.

Wow, now *that* is giving my minority group a lot of power!   Rather ironic, isn’t it?

Yesterday Maine voters decided that they really weren’t ok with the  law passed by the state Legislature earlier this year — to legally allow same-sex marriage and the rights/protections going along with that. 

Some rejoiced.  Others wept.  (See this article  for further description of the reactions).

You know, my wish to legally marry my same-sex life partner (yes, partner FOR LIFE… legally recognized or not) is not about taking anything away from any one else’s relationship.  It’s not about trying to prove anything or trying to force my way of being on anyone else. 

It’s about knowing that if my partner ever needs someone to make medical decisions for her, I won’t be denied the chance to be her voice.

It’s about knowing that if something happens to me, the resources I leave behind won’t be taken away from the one who has supported and loved me for years and years.

It’s about giving our relationship a chance to extend beyond the emotional and into the practical.

So all I ask today, no matter what viewpoint you hold, is that we keep talking about this.  Not from a place of anger or judgment on either side but from a genuine desire to find those golden threads of understanding between all of us.

Because really, isn’t it still just about Love?

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When we were young (painting by Jill R. Wiebe-King)

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text and photos by Starla J. King

(Note: this entry is the second in the new “Anatomy of Love” blog series – a personal look at the experience of a Lesbian Mennonite navigating the unpredictable waters of non-traditional faith and love.  Click here for first post in the series.)

Anatomy of Love: Would You Say No?

fall-morning1“Yesterday the beauty of early dawn
came over me, and I wondered who

my heart would reach toward. Then
this morning again and you.”

- Rumi

What if every day your heart reached toward the same person, knowing your two souls were inter-connected, your spirits spoke the same language, and together your lives created beauty… what if every morning your heart reached toward the same person and begged you to please please just let it love.

Would you say no?

Some would ask that you do.

Some would ask that you deny the authenticity of your heart, soul and spirit for the sake of … of what, exactly? Fear? Tradition? Maybe just blinding confusion? I’m not sure. And I’m not sure that the “what” or the “why” even matters.

But I am sure that when Love calls, I’m going to answer.

When Love presents itself to me, I’m going to embrace it.

When my heart begs for fulfillment and the permission to Love completely and honestly, I’m going to grant that request.

In fact, I already did.

rosedropsBut not all will celebrate with me and not all will support my version of Love.

Because, like me, my Love is a woman.

Those last three words change everything. Those three words have the power to negate everything else I’ve said, everything else I’ve done. Everything else I am.

So then, what if, for even one day, those three words just didn’t matter? What if instead the only words that mattered were all the others… like “Love” and “authenticity” and “honesty” and “ beauty”????

What if … ???

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text and photos by Starla J. King

(Note: this entry is the first in the new “Anatomy of Love” blog series – a personal look at the experience of a Lesbian Mennonite navigating the unpredictable waters of non-traditional faith and love)

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